Family Tips

Desire to help
It is natural for people to help others. However there is a huge difference between the help and emotional dependence. And even if you sincerely wish to help friends, actually you can only harm them, if you will inject their negative emotions by attention and desire to listen. You can help your friend only if you give good advice instead of passive hearing. You will understand that you have really helped the friend: after such conversation you will not feel emotionally devastated, but on the contrary, full of positive energy - you have really helped.

Desire to be necessary
All of us would like to be necessary, important and needed, to be of use for others. If we are necessary for our friends we feel that we live knowingly. However this desire can also strongly harm to friendship.
For certain you had faced the situation, when you literally were used by someone whom you sincerely believed. Remember, there is very clear border between two “uses”: «to be useful» and «to be used». Remember, you deserve relations in which you not only give, but also take.

Fear to stay without friends
It is better to stay alone, than to spend time with people who literally make dirty your feeling of self-esteem. Such relations can strongly injure to your self-respect, and so that you wont be able to notice it. You will not stay alone, if you break such relations – don’t be afraid of it!