Family Tips

Let’s assume 13-years old girl saying her parents: «Today I go to visit my friend, may I stay there for a night»? If the parents know nothing about this friend, there are two bad answers. The conservative bad answer: «In no case! Do not dare to go there in at all». The liberal bad answer: «What a question! You are already adult girl».

Wise parents will not answer at once “yes”, or “no”, and will start to ask the child and search for variants: «What you need it for? Are there alternatives: can we, for example, meet you? Why would you like to stay there»? In a result any decision will be more reasonable and more responsible for both sides.

Conversation can never be too much. It concerns the child of any age. Therefore before making the decision, it is necessary to talk to the child.

Let us suppose, the kid declares: «I do not want to go to kindergarten tomorrow». Parents can not neglect this message, it needs to be investigated. But it is equally silly to agree with the child at once and to search for the nurse urgently.
When the small person experiences helplessness, he or she often starts to feel fear and not always understands the reason. And here parents act as natural psychotherapists, if take children’s feelings seriously and give the child chance to talk about them. The more the child expresses fears, the less they frighten. It is vital to show the kid that to be afraid (and also - to feel like lonely, guilty, angry) is normally. Tell him or her about your fears. You should ask open questions (but not those demanding short answers): «What don’t you like in kindergarten? What does frighten you there»?