Family Tips

If you notice, that your child is shy, disturbing, mistrustful, suffers from loneliness, is not able to express the opinion, cannot show his talents, and is too much constrained, at any his age you are obliged to help the child to overcome these complexes.
First of all love the child and show your love to him. Need for love is one of the fundamental human needs, especially when you say the child that he is needed and he is simply good. It can be also an affable sight, a tender touch or direct words.
The known family therapist Virginia Satire recommended to embrace the child several times during the day, noting, that four embraces are completely necessary for everyone simply for a survival, and to feel good one needs eight the least. A touch in the most simple and direct way connects us with other people. It does not allow shrink into one’s shell, to feel lonely and lost. The touch gives pleasure and proves a physical reality of our existence. Embracing the child is a special pleasure, but many parents refuse to do this considering that the child has already grown up.
Make any efforts above yourself, but all the same try to come into contact with your children, especially with those who are timid. Do not hesitate to show your tenderness and allow children to show reciprocal tenderness. Otherwise regard it as your omission.
Take the child unconditionally. Not that he is beautiful, clever, capable, etc., but that he just is. Do not be afraid to tell the child: «I love you». And it is not important, how old is he and whether somebody else hears you. At that you have the right and can disapprove some of his actions and reprove him.