Family Tips

Form a high self-appraisal – the opinion of a person about himself, generated as a result of comparison with other people. People with a high self-appraisal are not afflicted, when are criticized, and are not afraid to be rejected. The person with a low self-appraisal, on the contrary, looks lost, is excessively sensitive to criticism, believing, that it testifies his inferiority. Our children are very much dependent on the encouragements from the adults. Think over, how often do you tell your child, what he or she is talented, beautiful, clever, etc.? And may be you feel awkward when someone praises your children? But it is consider right all the time to specify the child’s disadvantages, bad habits and failures.
And now recollect you, adult: would you do better when you are criticized or when to you are complimented, let it be even unfair?
The child who doesn’t know yet his or her own opportunities, much more depends on estimation than the adult. May be this is the reason, why children so like different diplomas, pendants, badges and premiums. Such medal give them real confirmation of their opulence, stimulate for the new achievements.
Your task is to make your children feel good. For this purpose help them to find all that is good in them. From now on start to complement children for everything, that you consider good.
But remember that insincerity of a compliment is always evident. Learn to see and hear fairly everything that the child does and says. Too often we trust another’s bad opinion, expressed by child’s schoolmates, the neighbors or the teachers.