Family Tips

Before to judge, estimate and react to behavior and actions, understand conditions that caused it. Estimate the role which you have played. Take into account also the version of the child. Remember, that the version of the adult always seems to be more convincing. Be attentive to the story and feelings of the child; sympathize with him even if his behavior is unworthy.
Reproves are better to reduce to a minimum. The more you will abuse the child, the worse he will behave. Remember, that you can only show the discontent with his separate actions, but not the child in a whole.
It is acceptably to condemn actions of the child, but not his feelings whatever undesirable they are. If they are, there is a reason for them.
Any business including study at school can cause various emotional conditions: from enthusiasm, interest, readiness and desire up to indifference and even frank disapproval.
When the child is under influence of strong feelings, his mind is not able to estimate a situation adequately. Learn children to express emotions and feelings so that they did not block their mind. Let them openly and fearlessly talk about their problems. Very often the child cannot express the feelings, but in general doesn’t know what to tell. If emotions are constantly suppressed, sooner or later the child splashes his feelings out on someone or himself.
Learn him to talk about his feelings from the first person: «I do not love(like) … I feel anger». For this purpose be open and sincere with your children, because a child will easily guess through your gestures and intonations that something is wrong.