Family Tips

Girls are more skilled on computers - is said in the results of the research, conducted by Tesco Computers, informs BBC News. Diffident in front of computers are 6 percent of girls and 10 percent of boys.
By seven years 73 percent of girls can use search machines, and 62 - edit documents.

About 70% of teenagers confidently create a profile in a social network, 59% can download music, and 35% - to edit photos.

Researchers have found out, than many parents feel uncertainty working with the computer. 57% of parents ask their children for an advice, and only 40% of adult respondents consider, that they are the most advanced users in the family.

Aggression and irritability peculiar to some teenagers, is connected to features of limbic system structure of a brain, which participates in regulation of emotions.

In the research, conducted by experts from the University of Melbourne, participated 137 boys and girls in the age of from 11 till 14 years. Teenagers and their parents were offered to discuss such painful themes for them, as time of going to bed, restrictions of access to the Internet and housework. Behavior of participants, in particular such parameters as aggression and anxiety, were estimated with the help of a special scale. Then teenagers were MRI-scanned and experts estimated state of limbic system structures.

It was found out, that aggressive teenagers of both sexes had double increase of amygdaloid body, responsible for impulsiveness.

In scientists’ opinion, inability of teenagers to control their emotions and behavior can be explained by immaturity of corresponding brain structures. They fully develop only by 20 years, informed head of the research Nicholas Allen.

World Health Organization has determined the rate of teenage cruelty in the European countries and countries of Northern America, including Canada, informs The Guardian. It was found out, that Hungary is the country of the most cruel girls, in Czechia - boys, and Finnish schoolboys and schoolgirls are the most serene of all surveyed children.

Sociologists have determined that 32% of the Hungarian girls and 69% of the Czech boys have been involved at least in one fight the last year. Estonia, Lithuania and Belgium also form the five countries with the highest factor of aggression among girls, and Lithuania, Latvia and Israel - among boys.

The country of the most peaceful teenagers is Finland with only 13% of girls and 37% of boys who have fought in 2005.

One of the research’s authors, Doctor Kandase Karri from the Edinburgh University, says that the reasons of such difference in behavior are not ascertained yet. Scientists are very amazed with record-breaking low rate of teenage cruelty in Finland.

So, everything is Ok with friends. Now you should learn, whether the same with adults.

- All system of parental rules (and interdictions!) should be precise and clear for the child. Identical offences entail identical punishments and on the contrary – progress of the kid is never unnoticed.
- Respect personal space of the child. Some families, for example, practice knocking at the door - but, at least, try not to interrupt suddenly children’s games and work.
- Listen and hear! Listen, and then briefly retell history, having finished “Have I correctly understood you?” The kid will understand that you have really listened to him or her.
- Let the child make a choice always whenever possible: juice, sweets, clothes, books and toys.
- Consult with the kid! But only when you can really follow to his or her advice. Otherwise it will be hypocrisy.
- Respect child’s opinion.
- Never punish the kid without understanding the situations and determination of real guilt degree.
- Learn to distinguish, when you kid lies, and when … dreams. The lie, as a rule, has rather pragmatic character and is said with the purpose to avoid punishment or to receive something. Fancies are something opposite. As a rule, they are “indistinct” and colorful.

The easiest way to explain the notion of “self-esteem” is to respect the child. It is bad, when the kid becomes an object for malicious jokes of other children.
Therefore careful mum should try to prepare the child for live in collective.

- Explain to the kid that all children, let say, in a kindergarten group, are different. It is impossible to make friends with everyone.
- Children’s collective do not love greedy persons. Therefore teach the child to share! It can’t be done quickly, therefore use each opportunity: encourage his or her generosity, pay attention to kind deeds of cartoons’ heroes and feelings of other people.
- If you feel, that the child covers something, and, most likely, this “something” is the conflict with the other kid, you should know about the situation. Probably, you will have to talk to the teacher or other parents, but it is better to spend some hours at once, than to solve later chronic problems.
- Teach the child … to tell “no!” Explain, that other people, and children as well, have no right to impose their will. Perhaps, it makes sense to think over some answers beforehand. “I won’t do it, because I do not want”.

Self-esteem is the best that adults can present to the child. How to explain the kid, what is this and how to learn to respect him- or herself?

Harmonize self-estimation

It is very important for the kid, not less than for the adult person, that self-estimation was adequate, that is allowed to plan effectively the activity, comparing with the opportunities and requirements of outward things.

Certainly, kid’s self-estimation can vary influenced by different circumstances. But parents can help the child to form an adequate self-estimation:

- Sincere acceptance of the kid with all his or her features and habits
- Attention to feelings of the child and to events, important for him or her
- Generosity for the deserved praises

45 percent of the time in front of a computer or any digital device American children in the age from 2 till 14 years spend for computer games, writes The New York Times referring to research of NPD Group. 31 percent take listening to the music. Only 17 percent of the time take TVshow and films.
Most often, 7,1 times a month, children download videoclips, is said in a press release of NPD Group. Musical video is downloaded 5,7 times a month, just music - 4,2 times, games - 3,1 times.

84 percent of children play games on a computer, game devices, digital audio-players or mobile phones. Over a half of the questioned listens to music on one of these devices, and one third views video or photos.

Children spend monthly from 6 up to 12 dollars for a digital content and from 13 up to 18 dollars on physical one.

The data on habits of children have been collected during online - survey of mothers.

The research carried out by British scientists from University of Sheffield has shown that children from 4 till 16 years old do not like and fear clowns, informs Reuters.

A survey has been carried out among 250 children-patients of a hospital. The purpose of the research had no direct relation to clowns. Scientists were going to find out how to improve decoration of children’s wards to make them more attractive for children.

Absolutely all respondents have definitely reasoned against images of clowns. Even elder children have found them unclear and frightening. Respondents have preferred walls of bright colors, without figures, informs The Press Association.

At what age to accustom the child to a chamber-pot? Till now the psychologists have not a common opinion in this respect. It is considered, that it is time to accustom the child to cleanliness, when he or she is physiologically and psychologically matured for this. But the age of this maturity in various cultures and time was determined in different ways.

At the beginning of the twentieth century the West-European pediatricians considered, that the appropriate time for this is already in the first months of the child’s life, later «the age of neatness» was put off further and further.

The modern European and American mums are advised to start this process from 15-20 months, or even to wait up to two years. Otherwise, consider French and American psychologists, in future the child can face various troubles from a neurosis up to an enuresis.

After one year children begin to notice a difference between words and pictures, and to be vividly interested in letters. Interest is the best incentive in education of the child. Support it in every possible ways. It is a high time to present the kid the small alphabet which he or she will study with the great pleasure. Illustrations should be not only bright, but also large, single and have precise contours.

So, very soon you will notice that, having woken up early in the morning, your kid hastens not to a box with toys, and to the favorite book. The kid does not read yet, but only looks at a picture and enjoys new impressions. In some time your kid will be an inveterate bibliophile. Therefore, in the future you won’t face problem «how to force the child to read». It is proved, that enthusiastic readers are the best pupils at school. And, on the contrary, illiteracy, a poor vocabulary, a narrow circle of interests of the child – are consequences of insufficient reading.

And the main thing - let reading be your small family tradition. Having seen you with the book, your kid will succeed you.