Family Tips

Girls are more skilled on computers - is said in the results of the research, conducted by Tesco Computers, informs BBC News. Diffident in front of computers are 6 percent of girls and 10 percent of boys.
By seven years 73 percent of girls can use search machines, and 62 - edit documents.

About 70% of teenagers confidently create a profile in a social network, 59% can download music, and 35% - to edit photos.

Researchers have found out, than many parents feel uncertainty working with the computer. 57% of parents ask their children for an advice, and only 40% of adult respondents consider, that they are the most advanced users in the family.

Aggression and irritability peculiar to some teenagers, is connected to features of limbic system structure of a brain, which participates in regulation of emotions.

In the research, conducted by experts from the University of Melbourne, participated 137 boys and girls in the age of from 11 till 14 years. Teenagers and their parents were offered to discuss such painful themes for them, as time of going to bed, restrictions of access to the Internet and housework. Behavior of participants, in particular such parameters as aggression and anxiety, were estimated with the help of a special scale. Then teenagers were MRI-scanned and experts estimated state of limbic system structures.

It was found out, that aggressive teenagers of both sexes had double increase of amygdaloid body, responsible for impulsiveness.

In scientists’ opinion, inability of teenagers to control their emotions and behavior can be explained by immaturity of corresponding brain structures. They fully develop only by 20 years, informed head of the research Nicholas Allen.

The love lasts no more than four years and is a “transient insanity”. It was declared by experts of National independent university of Mexico.

In opinion of the researcher Horhina Montemayor Flores, the first phase of love is accompanied with production of special chemical compounds in a brain, which are focused to all its neurons. At the time of this complex processes, “Cupid’s victim” can think of anything, but or the beloved.

However these reactions for the anatomic reasons cannot last more than four years. Such is the “structural strength” of even the most romantic relations. Especially since the mental state of a person in love can be compared to a syndrome of impulsive obsession.

The expert from the Mexican university emphasizes that people can fall in love with the same person only once. Repeated flashes of feelings after serious cooling in relations can be the sign of only affection or sexual attraction.

So, everything is Ok with friends. Now you should learn, whether the same with adults.

- All system of parental rules (and interdictions!) should be precise and clear for the child. Identical offences entail identical punishments and on the contrary – progress of the kid is never unnoticed.
- Respect personal space of the child. Some families, for example, practice knocking at the door - but, at least, try not to interrupt suddenly children’s games and work.
- Listen and hear! Listen, and then briefly retell history, having finished “Have I correctly understood you?” The kid will understand that you have really listened to him or her.
- Let the child make a choice always whenever possible: juice, sweets, clothes, books and toys.
- Consult with the kid! But only when you can really follow to his or her advice. Otherwise it will be hypocrisy.
- Respect child’s opinion.
- Never punish the kid without understanding the situations and determination of real guilt degree.
- Learn to distinguish, when you kid lies, and when … dreams. The lie, as a rule, has rather pragmatic character and is said with the purpose to avoid punishment or to receive something. Fancies are something opposite. As a rule, they are “indistinct” and colorful.

The easiest way to explain the notion of “self-esteem” is to respect the child. It is bad, when the kid becomes an object for malicious jokes of other children.
Therefore careful mum should try to prepare the child for live in collective.

- Explain to the kid that all children, let say, in a kindergarten group, are different. It is impossible to make friends with everyone.
- Children’s collective do not love greedy persons. Therefore teach the child to share! It can’t be done quickly, therefore use each opportunity: encourage his or her generosity, pay attention to kind deeds of cartoons’ heroes and feelings of other people.
- If you feel, that the child covers something, and, most likely, this “something” is the conflict with the other kid, you should know about the situation. Probably, you will have to talk to the teacher or other parents, but it is better to spend some hours at once, than to solve later chronic problems.
- Teach the child … to tell “no!” Explain, that other people, and children as well, have no right to impose their will. Perhaps, it makes sense to think over some answers beforehand. “I won’t do it, because I do not want”.

In the first reading …
Don’t be upset, if at first your kid will use the personal library not as you would have imagined it. Certainly, it is important to convince your kid at once that the book should be treated carefully. But nevertheless be ready that the most favorite of them “will be read” literally up to holes. Torn literature is an evidence of growing interest and creative potential of your child. If you refuse to understand it, then do not give books at all. But, I hope, you are modern parents and know about this important stage of development. Therefore be patient.

Birth of the interest
Closer to one year the child will start to point the image so that the mum or the daddy names it. However, if your kid is not interested in books yet, don’t hurry and postpone it for some time.

When the kid learns to answer a question “Where?”, ask him to show this or that image.
Give more attention to details. For example, ask the child to show a tail or hoofs, flowers, small insects, etc.

After birth of the child young mother tries to build anew the life, to find balance among her “last” and “present”. This internal struggle takes first three - four years of child’s life, consider psychologists.

With the appearance of posterity in family happy young parents … actually do not feel any happiness! Such is the statement of the English scientists from Institute of social and economic researches. Within seven years, from 1996 to 2003, scientists studied behavior of 3856 married couples-parents, informs Reuters. It was found out, that birth of successors in no way raise men’s degree of satisfaction with their life. About 17 % of them have declared that the work brings them more happy minutes, than their own children.

What is the reason of that negative psychological influence of a small member of the family on the parents in the first years of life? “There is one assumption: perhaps, young mother tries to build anew the life in connection with birth of the child, to find balance between her “previous” and “present”, - reason psychologist Ellison But. - Apparently, this internal struggle took these first three - four years of child’s life”.

A doll should be mentioned separately. This toy is irreplaceable in household games (washing, cleaning, cooking, and going to bed). These games are popular among both boys and girls. It happens first of all because they daily observe parents doing these things and copy it in a game. For development of such games children should have toys-home appliances and things: crockery, small bath, scraps, phone, a handbag, a stroller, etc.
Children begin to play with a doll gradually, imitating the daddy or mum - partners on game. The last think out new plots for these games – the doll has dinner; the doll waits for visitors, etc. These games solve such important tasks, as familiarization with things, their properties and functions, development of speech.

For development of a theme and a plot parents can get appropriate sets of toys. Books and video-films of the same subject-matter will expand child’s idea about the outward things.

During bathing, walks, rest at a summer house the child needs appropriate toys. Toys for outdoor games are especially significant.

To fulfill child’s need in movement, it would be nice to have ninepins, grace, badminton or tennis rackets, quoits.

How many toys does he or she need for this purpose? A few, to tell the truth! The main thing, they should be various, they should awaken imagination, developed talents, induce to game and be pleasant to the child.

Crisis of traditional family in the Western Europe leads to the situation when more and more children face a problem of adaptation in family after remarriage of one of the parents.

In France 4,3 million children either live with one of the parents, or with the stepfather or the stepmother after remarriage of parents.
One of the most difficult tasks is to handle with children of the stepmother or the stepfather. The problem is that most divorces happen when children on the average are about 4 years old. Remarriages took place some years later and, thus, children get used to a life with one parent. To build relations after that at once with several new members of a family is uneasy.

Usually parents, their friends and relatives like to give the child toys. Girls are loaded shower with dolls, boys with cars and pistols. Both boys and girls have teddy bears. To tell the truth, “tons” get dusty in boxes or on book shelves.
All boxes and cases are filled up with toys, but parents notice, that the kid doesn’t play with them.
What toys are necessary for high-grade development of your child and how much of them?

The children’s toy has appeared long ago. Some of them historians give 5 thousand years. But for sure toys existed 10 thousand years ago, and didn’t remain only because were made of a flimsy material - clay, straw, wood. Since the most ancient times the toy helped the child to adapt for a life of adults, developed qualities which will be useful in the further.

Boys with appreciable interest observe daddy’s actions connected to technical equipment, and then start to play with cars. They are bewitched with the railway with a steam locomotive, and carriages with toy animals.
This way the game and a toy helps in formation of positive emotions, an establishment of contacts between the child and the adult.