Family Tips

It is completely normal, if your kid has suddenly decided that he or she hates everything that you did not give him for a dinner - even the food, which he or she adored yesterday. Other extreme is also frequent - when your kid insists on the same food: Mum, give me again and again kefir and from same bottle. And it proceeds until the kid does not begin to hate kefir and starts to love porridge.

Experts say that the reason of such behavior is fear of new sensations. It is just what our civilization has developed for protection during evolution. You simply do not try what you have not tried earlier. Kiddies simply love everything that they have already tried earlier - it concerns daily habits, as going to bed, it concerns food and meal. Kids love things which they have tried or tasted earlier.

Other reason why small demanders do not want to eat - is a postulate «only try to force me do it». Kids put to the test your authority.

It may seem that the kid just does not have patience to sit on one place and to eat up a breakfast. What to do? Experts say that the best way is to create similarity of routine for meal. Try to remove all distracting things, as the TV, radio and pets.

American scientists have proved that women with the bigger difference between the size of a waist and hips are more intelligent and give birth to children with higher intellectual faculties.

Researchers from the Californian University in Santa Barbara and University of Pittsburgh have found out that women’s hips contain fat acids omega-3 which promotes development of mother’s brain and also the child during pregnancy.

“Round hips contain the important nutrients which promote development of a brain and help to give birth to clever children”, - has explained one of researchers, Stephen Galin from University of Santa Barbara.

“Men subconsciously pay attention to pneumatic forms as it is important for reproduction. Now we know biochemical hidden motive of such popularity”, - has noted William Lassek from University of Pittsburgh, informs Daily Telegraph.

American psychologists have put a task to find out under what circumstances a dog can bite the child. It is known, that the dog treats the kid as a younger member of a troop, a cub, which needs to be cared of. And all the same, there are still some accidents, sometimes with grave consequences.

For 4 years psychologists have analyzed 111 cases when children were assailed by their own dogs. Three quarters of incidents have taken place because the dog has been unexpectedly frightened during a game, or has heard a sudden noise, or a clap of a petard. Sometimes four-footed friends do not bear attempts to take off their titbit. And some from the dogs, had serious diseases, and have reacted with a bite to an attempt of the kid to touch a sore spot.

The conclusion arises by itself: for the sake of own safety the child should be taught from the earliest age that a dog, as well as the person, can become aggressive “because of nerves”.

Wrong eating develops bad habits for all life
Problems with eating appear, as a rule, as a result of a wrong eating at a very young age. If you offer your child same food day by day, his or her tastes will not develop, and it the child will refuse any new food. Tastes of the child as well as other feelings are formed almost completely between one year and three. Parents should not give only useful food. Your child will not tell to you: “It is tasty!” Or “it is cooked perfectly!â€? Nevertheless, it is very important, that the child was pleased with the meal and that the meal was various as possible. Big attention should be given to different spices, so that the child has learned many flavoring sensations.

The daily routine develops time sense
Approximately to two and a half years, when the child already speaks, he or she starts to understand such notions as “before”, “after”, “yesterday” and “tomorrow”. In other words, while the child does not start to understand speech and to speak, he does not have time sense.

Daily routine is important not only to instill good manners in a child, but also to develop time sense. Some mothers teach kids to learn time by watch before children learn to count. The child does not understand value of hands; therefore it is useless to show him clock-hands and say: “Eight o’clock, it is time to go to bed”. The child goes to bed not because it is eight o’clock, but because it is dark, and because he or she wants to sleep. The regular daily routine allows developing abstract time sense. This schedule replaces clock to the child.

 
Kids should sleep 10 hours the least 

Day regimen should not vary strongly regardless of that fact, goes the child to school or not. If he or she wants to sleep – let it be so. Sleep deficit should be filled: especially when the matter concerns senior pupils. The child will have enough of sleep for day or two, and then should return to a usual regimen. Remember, that kids should sleep not less than 10 hours a day, the senior schoolchildren - not less than 8 hours.

If the weather and a free time allow, go to a park. It is desirable to go in for any active games. Activity should be alternated. For example, go to theatre, and the next day to any exhibition. But do not be over-diligent! It is very useful sometimes to stay at home and read any interesting book.

Try to walk more
Kids should spend outdoors 3 - 3,5 hours a day, senior pupils – up to 2 hours.

Let your kids have a rest. They have passed the complex period of school adaptation. Both younger schoolchildren and senior pupils get tired of lessons. Therefore let the child to forget about study during vacation and use a free time for the hobbies.

Scientists from the London Institute of Psychiatry informed results of the research about influence of breast feeding on development of children: breast feeding raises IQ (by seven points).

During the research scientists used the data of breast feeding influence on development of about 3 thousand children in the Great Britain and New Zealand. It appeared, that not all newborns have increased IQ level, but only those babies who had FADS2 gene type, which associates with intellectual development.

Experts from British National Academy of Sciences believe, that revealed in one group of children gene helps to split contained in food fat acids, which influence development of a brain.

Also during the research scientists didn’t manage to determine precisely readiness for breast feeding at mothers from different social groups, though there was an assumption that women with higher education are more inclined to nurse kids.

Verses for learning should bring up noble feelings in the child, they should be beautiful, refined and deserving to be remembered all the life. And at the same time the child should like them.

The purpose of such lessons is not simply to learn by heart, but also to develop aesthetic feeling of the child, his or her mental faculties and creative potentialities.

The brain of a child can keep in memory from 100 up to 200 short poems. The more intensively memory is used, the better it functions and develops.

But everything should be done in a proper time: child’s retention should be trained, while he or she finds a pleasure in repetition.

So to beat or not beat? Civilized Europe has made the following decision - not to beat! For example, in Sweden, if the police notice a bruise, bump, abrasion on a body of the child, if it is proved to be parents’ handwork, daddy and mummy will go straight to prison. The same can be told about France, Italy, England, etc.

Europe denies corporal punishments. But this denying also contains latent danger. Who can guarantee that not punishing the child physically, parents won’t start “to beat” the child morally?

And maybe, more terrible isn’t the form of punishment, but that the parents do not know enough to stop punishing the progeny?

«Be friends with your children and then everything will be Ok », - exclaim Americans.

In 80s years «School and a life» magazine published the letter of one mum who confessed: every time, when her son committed an offence, it was she, who was punished, for example, the husband deprived her of sweets, did not allow watching favorite films, etc. Son pitied mum, and the boy began to study well, learned to live in harmony with his family.

 So, how the child should be brought up? If you have exact recipes, may be you are self-sufficient?

«… Council of Europe has begun large-scale campaign aimed at prohibition of corporal punishments of children in member-countries. Council of Europe considers as such slap in the face, box on the ears, slaps, etc. The Deputy Secretary General of Council of Europe Mod de Burburikkio, supervising questions of protection of children, has emphasized that such punishments break human dignity of the child. For today only 16 countries-members of Council have taken restrictive measures in the field of children punishment (both at school, and at home). The leader by the amount of legislative amendments connected to children’s defense is Sweden… »

Do you rightly punish children for their offences? How exactly do you punish the child? Do you allow such punishment, as beating and slaps in the face? How these punishments will be reflected in character and state of mind of your son or daughter?

Becoming a dialogue with own conscience and senses, parents keep on asking a question (good, if they do it) “to beat or to not beat” (the matter doesn’t concern violence, but educational measure) a prankish child? The answer to this question is still opened. Today even more often you can hear statements like these: «Beating, as a method of education, should pass into nothingness, as it generates aggression in child’s soul», «Beating is not necessary, all questions can be solved in a civilized way».
It is curious, that some physicians assert that in no circumstances parents should whip children (mainly boys) before pubescence, because susceptibility to homosexuality is born in the process of whipping (from arising feelings).

The child sometimes (or rather very often) considers the process of hair washing, as intrusion into his private space. It causes a conflict, as mum needs to wash hair of the kid, and the kid does not allow it, and every going to the bath-room ends with cries and tears.

How to make the procedure of washing more pleasant and painless for both mum and the child?

Give for hair washing more time so that not to hasten. The child also should be in good and quiet mood: not hungry, not tired, not upset.

Take his or her doll in a bath-room, so that the child can wash hair to a doll.

Use shampoos «without tears».

To make procedure interesting, build various shapes from hair and foam.

Give the child a cup that he or she tried to wash hair without assistance.

These are only some variants which you can use. Probably, they will help you to think up something new.