Family Tips

Regret
You are worried that having suspended relations, you won’t be able to restore them? However consider that without such heavy relations you will find peace of mind. Probably, having looked at the problem from such angle you will regret, that have not ended these relations earlier. Losing or blocking source of negative, you open yourselves for pleasure and positive in your life.

Difficulty at break of friendly relations
It is difficult to put an end to ties of friendship even if they give you nothing, except for tears and grief. What to do(make)? This circle is very difficult for breaking off. You already know, that relations are hard and even harmful to you, and internal you already agree to stop them, only do not know, how to do it. For the beginning you will need all internal force and confidence that you deserve the best mutual relations. Usually “unhealthy” friendship quickly comes to an end, few times having faced refusal. If you do not show the initiative, relations “will wither” themselves.

Call of duty
You are friends from school. How to break off such old friendly relations? Remember, people change in due course, and your old friend is not that first-form boy, whom you knew 20 years ago.

Friends are necessary to support you and bring pleasure. Your task is to support and please them. If mutual relations start to bring only irritation, grief and pain - it is time to get rid of them.
The life is too short to spend it in grief and depression.
If you are surrounded by negatively disposed people whom you call friends, in some time you will become the melancholiac and grumbler. And joyful people opened to all world will make joyful too. Actually it is very easy to understand, whether relations are “unhealthy” - simply look what people surround you.

Desire to help
It is natural for people to help others. However there is a huge difference between the help and emotional dependence. And even if you sincerely wish to help friends, actually you can only harm them, if you will inject their negative emotions by attention and desire to listen. You can help your friend only if you give good advice instead of passive hearing. You will understand that you have really helped the friend: after such conversation you will not feel emotionally devastated, but on the contrary, full of positive energy - you have really helped.

Desire to be necessary
All of us would like to be necessary, important and needed, to be of use for others. If we are necessary for our friends we feel that we live knowingly. However this desire can also strongly harm to friendship.
For certain you had faced the situation, when you literally were used by someone whom you sincerely believed. Remember, there is very clear border between two “uses”: «to be useful» and «to be used». Remember, you deserve relations in which you not only give, but also take.

Fear to stay without friends
It is better to stay alone, than to spend time with people who literally make dirty your feeling of self-esteem. Such relations can strongly injure to your self-respect, and so that you wont be able to notice it. You will not stay alone, if you break such relations – don’t be afraid of it!

Do we frequently ask, what is a friendship? For certain each of us has his own answer and definition of the “friendship”. But whether we know, what is “harmful friendship”? After the dialogue with the person whom you consider a friend, try to ask yourself: «How do I feel after our meeting? Better or worse?»
This way is a quite good check to understand essence of any relations: professional, love, friendly. Simply ask this question, not wondering about the reasons of this or that answer to it. Your sensations are important only. The answer will, probably, surprise you.
Ask yourself, how many times did you feel like ruined and disappointed after dialogue with the best girlfriend or friend? How many time did it seem to you, what you are unwittingly humiliated? And the most important question - what for do you continue to keep in touch with people who give you nothing, except for harm, frustration and afflictions?
The reasons of such behavior can be different; however all of them are anyhow connected to emotions, sensations and desires listed in this article. Having understood the reasons inducing you to keep unnecessary and heavy relations, you will be able get rid of them, at last.

It only seems to parents that their children understand nothing, notice nothing, and pay no attention. Actually, memory of children fixes every seen and heard by them fact, and therefore even the meal for children is more tasty when it is advertised.
Scientists came casually to such unexpected opening - they simply tried to answer a question - why children like not so useful to health meal, such as burgers from McDonalds? As a result of a long monitoring it appeared, that kids are very receptive to advertising. And consequently the meal which is wrapped up in a packing from McDonalds, seems to them six times more attractive than the same products in a usual wrapper. That is, children consider the meal tastier, if think, that it has been made by the big company with a known brand.
Doctors are very much concerned about it. «The given results, - they say, - are one more proof in support of recommendations on regulating or banning of advertising of high-caloric food and drinks with the low content of nutrients or all marketing directed at small children».

The general advice is to establish strict rules and of cause, consequences, when it goes about using tobacco.
Parents should know the appealing or unappealing sides about smoking and patiently listen to kids’ answers. They should show children that their opinions are valuable.
It is true that some children may feel confident simply saying “no” to smoking. But parents can also suggest alternative responses, as that which strengthen healthy lifestyle: “I want to stay in shape for football”.
Encourage kids to break relations with friends who don’t respect their decision not to smoke. Children should also know that smoking is forbidden in almost all public places, as it is harmful for people’s health and can lead to serious and even fatal diseases.
Talks about evident for adults harm in the future can be difficult for understanding of kids and teens, so parents would better discuss how smoking negatively change the way they look and feel now. Talking about the “side-effects” of tobacco use today may be much more efficient than warnings about long-term consequences.
Possible current problems may include: pale and wrinkly skin, yellow teeth, stained clothes, bad-smelling breath, cough, often colds, trouble breathing, and many others.

Unfortunately, tobacco products aren’t hard for teens to get. They can usually take a cigarette from an elder friend or sometimes even buy it from retailers that lawlessly sell it to minors.
Experts have conducted a 4-year research in Washington State. They have invited 14- to 17-year-olds who tried to buy tobacco to check whether retailers and restaurants are complying with the age requirements for tobacco sales.
Researchers admitted that convenience stores were found out the most likely to sell tobacco to minors. Grocery stores were the second in the list for underage tobacco sales.
Irrespective of the source where kids get cigarettes, they should realize that that experimentation can quickly turn into a highly addictive habit.
Accidental smoking at parties or while hanging out may seem for teens just a fun, bud it can be as addictive as cocaine or heroin. Besides studies have shown that under ages also are more likely to try marijuana, cocaine, heroin, or other illegal drugs.

It goes without saying that control is important to ensure safety of the children. But to help them really learn life and new skill, it’s also vital not to spoon-feed. Parents should give kids an opportunity to try something new, make their own mistakes, and learn from them.
For instance, if your child shows the wish to learn how to make a sandwich, you’d better to demonstrate, set up the ingredients, and let him or her try to do it on his or her own. Almost certainly, the child will make a bit of a mess. But don’t shame the kid. Actually, avoid any criticism that could discourage him or her from trying again. On the other hand, if you help untimely to finish the sandwich, your child will think, that he or she can’t make sandwiches.
But if you have patience for the mess and the time it takes to learn, the profit will be real. Someday you will here from the child that he or she is hungry for lunch and is going to make his own sandwich. The best reply for this occasion will be the request to make one more for you. This way you will demonstrate your faith in abilities of your kid.
Help your child by encouraging persistence in doing something. Trying again kids learn that  difficulties and obstacles can and should be overcome.

Being a kid takes confidence. Children often face obstacle in their life, as most of the things they do for the first time and have no idea what will be later.
Naturally, parents want to prepare their off-springs so that they’ll bravely takes on new challenges and, later believe in themselves. Children are different and there is no standardized advises, but parents can follow some general tips to build kids’ confidence.
Self-confidence rises out of a sense of ability. Children develop confidence not only because parents tell them they’re great smart and so on, but because of their own achievements, both big and small. Encouraging words are important, but these words mean much more when they refer to a kid’s specific efforts and new abilities.
When kids achieve something, and it is not very important whether it’s brushing own teeth or riding a bike, they get a sense of themselves as able and capable.
Building self-confidence begins surprisingly early. When babies learn to turn thin pages of a book or toddlers learn to walk, they are getting the idea that they can do it. Each new skill and small achievement increases confidence.
Parents should help by giving children opportunities to practice and master their new skills and let them make their own mistakes. Parent’s interest, excitement and praise, when kids show off a new skill is also very important to encourage them for new steps.
With plentiful opportunities, good guidelines and lots of patience from parents, kids can master basic skills: like tying their shoes and making the bed. Facing other more serious from adult’s point of view challenges, kids can approach them knowing that they have already been successful in something else.

You’ve survived 9 months of pregnancy, you’ve read the whole library, studied all that you managed to find in the Interned, listened to all advices of your friends and relatives and now you’re ready to head home and begin new life with your baby. Once home, though, you all of a sudden realized you have no idea what to do.

Our guide will help you to feel confident about caring for a newborn at your home.

Main points of baby-care:
Help from your friends and family
Handling a newborn
Bonding and soothing
Diapers
Bathing tips for the first-time parents
Feeding and burping
Sleep of an infant

Help from your friends and family

Ask your friends and relatives to get through this time, which can be very disturbing and for sure overwhelming. Staying in the hospital, use the services of feeding specialists or lactation consultants who can help you get started nursing or bottle-feeding. Besides, nurses are really a great resource to show you how to hold, burp, change, and care for your baby.

At home you might want to hire a baby nurse or ask somebody else to help you for a short time after the birth. Do not hesitate to have recourse to relatives and friends. They may be more than eager to help, and though you may disagree on some things, don’t reject their help. At least they can help you house cares. But if you don’t feel like having guests or you have other concerns, don’t feel guilty about putting limitations.

If you have your first baby and have never earlier cared for a newborn, baby’s fragility may be intimidating. There are a few things that you should remember.
Support your baby’s head and neck carefully. Cradle the head when carrying your baby and support the head when carrying the baby upright or when you lay him or her down.
In no case shake your newborn, whether playing or being disillusioned. Such shaking can cause bleeding in the brain and even death. If you are going to wake your baby, don’t do it by shaking but tickle your baby’s feet instead or blow gently on a cheek.
Always check whether your baby is securely fastened into the carrier, stroller, or car seat. Avoid car trips and any other journeys that can be too rough or bouncy.
Remember that your newborn is not ready for an intensive play, such as being shaked on the knee or thrown in the air.
Though you may feel worried about handling a newborn, in two-tree weeks you’ll get accustomed to a daily routine and turn into a professional parent. If you have questions or concerns, you can always turn to your doctor.