Family Tips

Interest - the best motive
To cause an interest to an object of training is the best pedagogical method. Therefore the main task of parents, if they want to teach something the child, is to wake his or her interest. So, for example, instead of teaching the child how to count, it would be better to awake an interest in ciphers. Instead of teaching how to write, awake his or her interest in process of writing.

To cause this interest, it is important to create necessary conditions. For example, to have the desire to draw, the child should be surrounded with pencils and paper. It is useless to wait the child starts doing something, if there are no conditions for it. Many adults, indifferent to music or painting, can confirm that the reason of their dislike was compulsion in the early childhood or absence of conditions.

Interesting things and occupations children consider right, and uninteresting – wrong.
Special research of formation of such concepts as “it is “good and “bad”, has allowed to come to a conclusion that “good” for a child is that  is interesting and fascinating.
This connection of concepts “good and “pleasant” is typical only for early age. Gradually the child gets experience, and starts to think that “good” is that, for what he or she is praised. And on the contrary, he or she is punished, it means, that he has acted badly. Unpleasant feelings are associated with concept “bad”.

Therefore instead of imposing your own understanding, you’d better provide pleasant emotions when he or she does something well, and unpleasant when it is bad.

Children start to imitate already during the first year of life, and during the second and third year they imitate knowingly, and copy not only children of their age, but also grown-ups. It is said not without reason that children are a mirror of adults. Therefore at the presence of a child, pay attention to your own behavior, especially when children are at that very most imitating age. Three-year children imitate all gestures, a manner to speak, gait, etc.

This propensity to imitation influences also emotional state of the child. The child can become nervous, having played with other nervous child, or suddenly start to be afraid of planes if his friend is afraid of them.

Imitating, the child doesn’t simply apes – these are acts of true creation. Therefore do not criticize severely and do not take it to heart not to kill the creative person in a germ.

Successes in one occupation give confidence in other ones.
It is more useful for the child to try the forces in various things with more wide range of things, than to be focused on something one. On the other hand, if he succeeds in one area, he will get confidence and will move ahead more successfully in others.

The results of a new research devoted to secrets of family happiness were published in the USA.

Since 1990 the percentage of Americans thinking that children are very important for a happy matrimony sharply decreased. As it appeared, more and more people consider that a key to family happiness is in division of family duties.

According to the last research, in which participated more than 2000 Americans, presence of children is less important for a marriage, than such factors, as division of household duties, good housekeeping, sufficient income, happy sexual mutual relations and fidelity.

If in 1990 65 % of respondents thought that children are of great importance for family happiness, now only 41 % are sure in it. About three of four Americans are convinced that the main purpose of a marriage is mutual happiness and contentment of adults, instead of a birth and upbringing of children.

Analytics believe that mass culture is more and more directed toward contentment of adults’ desires and fancies. In comparison with them, the values connected to children: care, stability, holocaust, - seem out-of-date and banal.

Also such result is caused by insufficient state assistance to young families who want to have children. The matter concerns, in particular, granting to one of the parents a paid child rearing leave and subsidizing of children’s public health services.

The key to happy relations is acceptance that hard times are inevitable in a marriage, consider psychologists.

Psychotherapists from Californian University consider that the programmed perception that difficulties are inevitable makes marriage steadier to them. In their opinion, modern love stories and fairy tales form in public consciousness myth that ideal relations are not only theoretically possible, but real.

Authors of the research Doctor Diana Gerhard and Doctor Eric MakCollum consider to be a myth opinion of many people that they are able to create ideal relations. And professional advisers cannot help with this situation. The confidence that something ideal exists, can sooner or later force the person to feel defeated. Thus he begins to be focused on negative and will be even more disappointed.

There is the only way out - to understand that healthy relations, as well as a life in general, cannot stay in constant well-being and temporal difficulties and disappointments, unfortunately, are inevitable.

Experts from Rutgers University have conducted a research and found out that feminism not only does not prevent romantic love relations between a man and a woman, but also strengthens them.
Scientists have conducted a research in which participated more than 500 people of different age. In result it was found out that if a man sympathizes with the ideals of feminism, his relations with a girlfriend or a wife are at higher spiritual level. Besides, men who have love relations with the feminist enjoy more stable relations and feel the bigger sexual contentment. Experts also mark that during their scientific research it was found out that widespread believe about feminists as about lonely, physically unattractive women who frequently prefer love with representatives of the same sex, is far from the truth.

The ideology of feminism began to be formed at the beginning of the 20-th century. This is rather dissimilar and contradictory social-economic and philosophical-ethical doctrine. As is known that the feminism has appeared and continues to develop on a wave of struggle for gender equality.

Food and Drug Administration has promulgated results of examination concerning the use of anti-catarrhal means for treatment of children - experts recommend not to give them to children taking into account their inefficiency and presence of side-effects.

According the data of the made examination, children under 6 years shouldn’t be given preparations which contain active substances from decongestant, expectoration, antihistaminic and antitussive groups.

And if earlier physicians discussed only complications after such therapy, last data testify also inefficiency of such treatment at children under 6 years.

Today increase of educational and emotional loadings along with lowering of the school age leads to development of stressful conditions, and changing of routine (lack of sleep, reduction of motion activity) promotes spread among children of psychological disorders and functional deviations of cardiovascular system.

It turns out, that the child because of his or her uncomfortable state of health (physical, mental, emotional) cannot successfully master the school program. And unreadiness to school, lagging in study reduces interest and desire to study.

Besides, adults often do not know what they want from their own offspring. And absence of emotional contact with the child can result not only in neuroses, but also in keeping away from parents and searching understanding and approval somewhere else. 
However many so-called «school difficulties» and their serious consequences can be prevented if to know strength and weaknesses of the child.

Well-being of the child depends only on parents’ desire to help the child, parental love and feeling of parenthood. The school’s function is first of all educational. And parents are entirely and completely responsible for health of their children.

The child sometimes (or rather very often) considers the process of hair washing, as intrusion into his private space. It causes a conflict, as mum needs to wash hair of the kid, and the kid does not allow it, and every going to the bath-room ends with cries and tears.

How to make the procedure of washing more pleasant and painless for both mum and the child?

Give for hair washing more time so that not to hasten. The child also should be in good and quiet mood: not hungry, not tired, not upset.

Take his or her doll in a bath-room, so that the child can wash hair to a doll.

Use shampoos «without tears».

To make procedure interesting, build various shapes from hair and foam.

Give the child a cup that he or she tried to wash hair without assistance.

These are only some variants which you can use. Probably, they will help you to think up something new.

They too hurry to be born. And while there are argues in a society, whether their lives should be saved in general, they persistently cling to life with their tiny fingers. They are “microchildren”, or as say doctors, prematurely born children with extreme weight of a body, that is children, whose weight at a birth makes less than 1 kg.

Prematurely born is the kid who has been given birth from 22 till 37 gestational weeks and with weight from 500 g. Such is provision of the World Health Organization. However there are various degrees of prematurity. The basic criterion is the weight of a body. So, if the child is born with weight less than 1 kg he is prematurely born with extreme weight; up to 1,5 kg - prematurely born with low weight of a body, and more than 1,5 kg - simply prematurely born.

There are also “records” in this area

So the American doctors have managed to rescue a life of the newborn girl born on the 22-nd week of pregnancy and weighing only 284 g. According to Iowa University, which traces the statistics on prematurely born children all over the world, it is the shortest term fixed for the survived baby.

There are some precise signs, which say that is time to go to the doctor (depression, unlike melancholy and grief, is a serious illness and demands medical aid):

- The bad mood, weakness, impossibility to concentrate last day by day longer than 5 - 7 days; 
- You wake up already in melancholy, with bad thoughts;
- The depressive mood does not correspond to an objective situation, that is arises on a background of the general well-being;
- Sleep disturbance - or day time drowse, or painful night sleep, early awakening and impossibility to fall asleep again;
-  Thoughts about suicide - direct or veiled such as «they will do better without me», «I don’t understand, what I am living for», etc.